"The 2015 Dress" Trick + A New Way to Partner with Me

Today, I have one throwback perspective to share and one parent coach opportunity you might want in on.

1.  "Remember the Dress" During Arguments

Remember The Dress — the viral photo that some people swore was white and gold, and others swore was blue and black?

Turns out, both groups were right... depending on how their brains interpreted the lighting.

(We talked about this in a Boy Mom Academy meeting this week and some moms had never heard of it. If that’s you, check it out HERE.)

It’s a perfect metaphor for what happens during sibling fights ~ or anytime you’re arguing with your child. You see the same event, but from completely different angles. And when you both believe you're right, connection breaks down fast.

I've Turned This into a Parenting Tip: 

• STEP 1:  Show your child The Dress! Pull it up on your phone and talk about what they see. Interview others together. What do they see?

• STEP 2:  The next time you don’t see eye to eye on something, say: “This is like the dress. It’s hard to see each other’s point of view. Let’s not argue about it.”

  
  

The Takeaway:  When your child doesn't share your point of view, think of how hard it is to see the dress any other way. You don’t have to agree with your child (and siblings don’t have to agree with each other), but you do have to recognize that they’re seeing it differently — and their perception feels just as real to them as yours does to you.

Before you jump in to fix or referee, take a breath and ask:

“Is this like the dress situation?”

And if it is, name it. Then watch your child’s tension melt as he realizes you get how differently he sees the world.

2. Want to Share These Tools and Get Paid?

If you've been following my work and want to share it with your community, friends, or clients — you can now joinThe Boy Mom Academy Partner Program.

It’s free to join, and here’s what you get:

• $100 commission for every new member you refer to The Boy Mom Academy

• 10% per month for ongoing subscriptions

• Swipe copy, promo links, and no-hassle monthly reports

• Optional coupon codes you can offer your people

• A free 3-month membership once you refer 5 moms and 1-year once you've referred 10 moms. 

  
  

If you’re a doctor, therapist, educator, or just a loud-and-proud boy mom with a crew of other boy moms — this is for you.

This month, I'm hosting a free workshop on boys and screen addiction. When you sign up for the partner program, you'll get a special link to promote that too. If your people sign up for The Boy Mom Academy after meeting me, you'll get all the bonuses.

What's not to love?

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❤️ Rachel

P.S.  I'd love to hear from you, whether you need coaching support or just want to drop a line to say, "I'm listening." Contact me anytime.