Your son needs YOU to be sturdy… that means you don’t waver in hard moments.
You’re grounded when the wind blows and his emotions come crashing down.
It’s hard, but important work for us as parents.
In my experience, there are 6 characteristics of a "Sturdy Parent" and I wanted to share them with you.
And once you've gone through them all, I'd love to hear which one resonates with you most. Do you embody all of them? Where do you want to be more sturdy? Let me know in the comments!
Without further ado, here are 6 traits of a sturdy parent:
1. Flexible: Whining, begging, and backtalking don't change my mind but I'm flexible and honest when it makes sense to pivot or change course.
2. Adaptable: I'm adaptable when big shifts occur in our family, which helps my kids adapt too.
3. Secure: I don't take it personally when my child curses at me or says I hate you. I know it's not about me.
4. Patient: I don't try to convince my child that his feelings are wrong, even when they don't match the situation.
5. Rooted: I have conviction in my parenting approach even when others disagree.
6. Attuned: I get my child (or I aim to). I know what matters to him. I try to learn about and understand his temperament. I'm not confused by him.
None of us are perfect, but the more we can work to regulate ourselves so that we can show up strong for them in hard moments, the better our connection will be.
So I'd love to hear from you which one most resonates. Do you embody all of them? Where do you want to be more sturdy? Let me know in the comments!